As a mental health professional, I knew about what postpartum depression/anxiety was and resources that helped women with it, but I wondered why there weren’t more resources on how to effectively manage anxiety during the postpartum period of having a baby.
After all, anxiety and worries are so common during this time.
I don't remember the feeling of panic and the anxious "what now" feeling hitting until my husband and I looked at each other for the first time and said "we have to take him home now with just us!?". I wanted to enjoy motherhood, not fear it. But all my life the worry and fear of what I'll be, what I am, and what I can be, was all to scary to think about and by adding another human into this mix, it made it all that much harder to admit I was scared shitless and I didn't have it all together.
Some tips I would love to give new moms, moms struggling, moms to be, and anyone else interested in hearing my story about being real with my struggle into this amazing journey of motherhood.... Read On:
1. Ask for support. Part of being a good mother is knowing when to ask for help. So don't be afraid to ask for it during this difficult time. Help comes in many forms, ranging from friends who cook meals and fold your laundry to good old fashion therapy. You need support from others so you can get better.
2. Tell a girlfriend you trust, hell tell as many of them as you want. Someone other then your spouse is a good person to help support you. My husband was an amazing cheerleader and helped me through these days immensely. Some days he had to direct me around as to what I would do next with myself, and for our son, to make it seem more do-able. You may be surprised at how many women are experiencing similar feelings and how by opening up about your fears and struggles, they will almost feel better talking to you in return about theirs.
3. Be around others to distract your mind. Everything gets better if you can distract yourself with others who are healthy and loving life. Hang out with second-time moms. They literally show you that life mellows out and people actually want more of these little energy draining human beings :) Get outside the house, go on walks, enjoy the actual time spent with other people and their children who are older. They show you what is to come and that it all gets better and better as they become little kiddos.
5. Lastly, do what works best for you. Asking the opinions of many others, leads to more anxiety about those choices now others have given you. Retreat back to those few trusted friends you first relied on and ask them, then make your decision. Don't ask the world, because if you haven't noticed, the world raises many different people in many different ways!
Peace, Love, Laughter, And Wine