I've come to the realization that many of us can all relate to one thing....surviving in the game of life with the cards we've been dealt. In a book titled "If life is a game, these are the rules" Cherie Carter-Scott discusses the Ten Rules for Being Human. The first rule being this
You receive one body when you are brought to earth. The thing people struggle with seeing is that the body is only storing what lies inside of it, your hopes, fears, thoughts, expectations, and beliefs that make you unique.
In the field I work in, I see across the board not only in teenagers but in adults as well, that they are not recognizing the purpose of their bodies. They subject their bodies to the harshest judgements and their only measurement of self worth. Imposing harsh judgements on your body only limits the range of experiences you allow yourself to have and to enjoy.
What one must do first to get in touch with their body is to spend time internally on self-acceptance before spending time and money searching for those external solutions (hair color, wrinkle cream, plastic surgery, wardrobes). What does this look like you may ask? It is perfectly natural for us to want to look and feel our best, but it does not mean at the expense of criticizing, judging, or finding fault with your body. Cherie Carter-Scott stated, "Even if you are not the healthiest or most attractive, the drive for self-improvement is completely healthy as long as it comes from a place of self-love rather then from those feelings of inadequacy."
After having my son I felt frumpy and desperately wanted the weight to go away to feel better in my body again. Weight in places it had never been and an ass that quite frakly was larger then I had ever experienced before. But I had to ask myself the question of "Did I feel like I needed a new body shape to MAKE ME HAPPY?" If the answer was YES, then I needed some help with that internal self-acceptance part. Did I want to lose weight to ultimately feel better again? Sure! Of course! But to make me HAPPY, no, not at all. Because my husband, my son, friends, family time, and wine were what I looked forward to. My body had nothing to do with enjoying all those things that made me happy
We must love all the parts of US. And if you can't love them, CHANGE them. If you can't change them, then accept them as you are and go help others to accept those things about themselves!
**Peace, love, laughter and Wine!!**